How to talk
- greet the person
- Ask the person how they are doing or about their day
The rest is a system of simply responding to their response and any response thereafter with one or more of the following options:
- share your thoughts/ additional information on their statement and/or ask questions to know more.
- develop ideas further, seek to build upon both yours and the other persons understanding of the current conversational topic.
- tell them something relevant to mutual common interests or involving your personal life (proportional to mutual emotional closeness) and ask for their thoughts on it or a specific part of it.
- Ask questions regarding the development of recent events in the other persons life which you may be aware of.
This should be done in accordance with the following guidelines:
- show interest in their responses and in their personal life (proportional to mutual emotional closeness).
- strive for balance between adding your own additional information and seeking theirs.
- Adjust focus towards other person in a manner which is proportional to the emotional significance and/or novelty of the topic they are expressing.
- It doesnt matter if you do not hear a response, they are probably busy or just distracted :)
With a group of people, the same principles apply but you simply engage with them as a group or alternate between the people depending who is talking and who is expressing a point of the most personal significance.